In a culture that wrongly idolizes outward appearance, beauty is truly found on the inside. True beauty is manifested in an embodiment of a fear of the Lord, a life of confidence grounded in truth and a radiating love shown to others.
Chiseled cheekbones and a face free of wrinkles manifest temporary beauties compared to the true beauty found in fearing the Lord. A beautiful woman demonstrates humility, purity and steadfastness. Where do these qualities come from? These characteristics are produced in a woman through a fear of the Lord. A beautiful woman does not present herself as better than everyone else, but with a humble attitude and reverence toward the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. True beauty in a woman manifests through the way she protects her heart from the wickedness of the world, because her heart instead seeks God’s goodness and majesty. Fearing the Lord to her is more important than following the every changing beauty standards. A life marked by a fear of the Lord produces a foundation that is firm and secure rather than a life consumed with a struggle to live up to society’s fickle beauty standards. Women who hold to the steadfast truth that God created the world and holds them in his hand shine an unexplainable beauty. Proverbs 31:30 famously states that “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” By fearing the Lord, women realize that the pursuit of outward beauty must be taken with a grain of salt, because ultimate beauty and satisfaction come from a fear of the Lord. The outward beauty quickly blows away like a leaf in the fall air compared to the rock, solid truth of God’s majesty and sovereignty. Charm and false beauty depict shallowness and the temporary reign of the Enemy. God created humanity to fear Him because He is Lord, and when a woman truly fears God, she depicts God’s beautiful original plan. We, as women, must remember to “not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear” (1 Peter 3:3). We know that presenting ourselves with a humble attitude before the King is more beautiful than wearing a fancy dress, real pearls, perfect makeup and a prideful, haughty heart. In the same way, a pretty heart is more desirable than a pretty face.
When a woman understands and embodies the fear of the Lord, confidence radiates from her. Confidence speaks louder than a pretty face, but sadly in today’s society, women have lost their confidence in the truth that we have been “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). The loss in confidence attributes to the silly idea that all women must showcase “full lips, larger breasts, a nipped-in waist, lean thighs” as Alex Kuczynski notes in the article “What is beautiful?” So, how can we, as daughters of the Kings of Kings, regain this lost confidence? Psalm 139:14 states “wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Women must choose to let go of the lies crafted in media and embrace the truth that God has wonderfully created us in his image for a specific purpose. Our acceptance and love towards the God’s work of creation will shine through what society deems as imperfections. It’s easy in the moment to dwell on a comment that spews lies saying you’re unwanted, not beautiful enough, and not worthy of love. In these vulnerable moments, the best thing we can do is to guard our heart and take hold of our emotions and feelings and not rest in these lies. We must ignore the sly lies of society that declare that our beauty is not good enough, and instead walk, speak, and live confidently believing we are masterpieces crafted by God. When a woman is confident, her outward appearance is more pleasing by the way she walks and talks. In other words, the heart radiates the confidence from inside. Society will always portray a hegemony of one, cookie-cutter kind of beauty that has a chilling likeness to everyone but this “perfect” look strips women of their beautiful and unique characteristics that they have received from God. Embracing the way God has created women is essential because of passages such as Proverbs 31:25 which say that a beautiful woman “is clothed with strength and dignity without fear of the future.” A woman filled with beauty ignores the societal definition of beauty by listening to the truthful words of God. A beautiful woman breathes confidence, because she embodies God’s fingerprints.
When a woman has confidence in her identity found in Christ, it inevitably leads to a demonstration of kindness and love to those around. This is a radiating beauty more desirable than a perfect face. As women in today’s culture, we have become so distracted by the desire to look attractive on the outside that we neglect the inside. Women strive to look younger, have perfect skin, and thinner bodies but this pursuit will not fix the aged, hurting and corrupt heart inside. These women have believed the lie that cosmetics will make them beautiful, but they neglect the inside. Fixing outward so-called flaws will not fix the issues found in the heart.
The growing secular society around us will attempt to mimic true beauty, but will always leave us with disappointment and discouragement. Not only this, but it will also lure women into believing that their unique characteristics are not good enough. We, as women, must hold fast to God’s truth that He wonderfully and uniquely created everyone. We gain confidence by believing this truth and walking, living, and breathing confidence. This results in a portrayal of true beauty that God has made. With this beautiful confidence inevitably follows an amiable, humble heart that fears the Lord. The goodness from the inside makes a woman radiate beauty wherever she goes. Many people have tried to become beautiful through cosmetics and plastic surgery, but have failed because genuine beauty must come from the inside first.
Photo by Careah Turvin